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Jerking someone off or fingering them

  • Jerking someone off and fingering someone is when your hand touches the penis, vagina or anus
  • That can make your client sexually aroused. Or you 
  • Do you have an STI? If you do, you can often still safely jerk someone off and finger them

Jerking someone off

When jerking someone off, you move your hand on the penis. That can make your client or you sexually aroused.

Many clients want to be jerked off. This is you do that correctly:

  • Ask your client what they like
  • Change speed: rub it gently sometimes and sometimes harder
  • Use your whole hand sometimes and sometimes just your fingers
  • Move fast sometimes and sometimes slow
  • Does the client have foreskin? If so, move it down gently. That way, you can also touch the head
  • The head is very sensitive. Your client will come faster if you touch the head
  • Is the client circumcised? In that case, the head is less sensitive
  • A lot of clients also enjoy it if you touch their balls. Or the bit of tight skin between the balls and the anus. You can do that using your hand or your mouth

How can you jerk someone off safely?

Do you want to jerk someone off or do you want them to jerk you off? This is how to do it safely:

  • Wash your hands before and after jerking someone off
  • Touch your own body as little as possible after you jerk a client off

Do you have an STI? Or other complaints on your vagina or penis? If you do, you can usually still jerk someone off. You can continue to work and earn money. 

In that case, it is additionally important that you do it safely. Latex or Nitrile gloves offer good protection against STIs. Make sure you throw the gloves away immediately when you finish. Also make sure you don’t let the part that touched the penis or vagina touch your skin.

Are you unable to use gloves? Then wash your hands before and after jerking someone off. And touch your own body as little as possible afteryou jerk a client off.

Read more about STIs

Fingering

During fingering, you touch the vagina and clitoris or the anus with your hand. That can make your client or you sexually aroused.

A client may also ask if they can finger you. That can be pleasant. You don’t have to do a lot yourself and if the client is good at it, it can feel nice.

Some clients have rough fingers. In that case, ask the client to use lube.

Your client can also ask you to finger them. This is how to do that:

  • Ask your client what they like
  • Use lube
  • Change your technique: sometimes gently and sometimes harder
  • Sometimes you only use your fingers and sometimes your palm as well
  • Move fast sometimes and sometimes slow
  • Touch the various parts of the vagina: the labia, the clitoris and the inside
  • The clitoris is very sensitive. Your client will come faster if you touch the clitoris
  • Does the client want you to finger them? Start slow and use a lot of lube

How can you finger someone safely?

Are you fingering someone or are you being fingered? Then wash your hands before and after the fingering. Touch your own body as little as possible after you finger your client.

Do you have an STI? Or other complaints on your vagina or penis? If you do, you can still finger someone. You can continue to work and earn money. 

In that case, it is additionally important that you do it safely. Latex or Nitrile gloves offer good protection against STIs. Make sure you throw the gloves away immediately when you finish. Also make sure you don’t let the part that touched the penis, anus or vagina touch your skin.

Are you unable to use gloves? Then wash your hands before and after fingering someone. And touch your own body as little as possible after you finger a client. 

Read more about STIs

Question about Jerking someone off or fingering them?

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